Depression In Men!!

Depression use to be considered a women’s disease, a female disorder, however there is much evidence to the contrary.

In other words, men suffer with depression, although hidden beneath masculine overtones and behavior. Some men are taught, shaped and molded through external influences into who they are and at times without their own input. Men are taught to be mentally strong and tough; to be the bread winner and provider; to be invincible, perfect, and disciplined; taught not to cry or show emotion; and to avoid being in touch with their feelings. Just take into account society’s projected image of manhood through commercial imagery as rugged, solid, and strong.

For this reason alone, most men would not or could not identify themselves with having depression and/or recognize any forms of depression in themselves. There are many different stages and levels to male depression depending on the individual, how they are taught and their situation.
One example of a depressive episode a man can experience may not look like what it is. For instance, an important situation occurred that day, and he just sits there on the couch “stuck”, mentally disconnected, while everyone around him says “are you going to do something about this?” No one, even the man himself, would be aware that he may be suffering from a depressive episode. It is then he say’s to himself, “I use to be able to bounce back from situations like this”.
Things happen in life that hurt you and you get knocked down. The situation makes you feel insecure. You internalize it and bury it deep inside. You assure yourself that you can handle it. Your self- pride is the activator. Along with anxiety and pressure you try and solve it; but when you bury your unsolved problems and insecurities with added internal pressure you put yourself in harms way. You set yourself up for Depression.

Men are more prone to drink alcohol and self medicate with drugs to feel better or to cope. Alcohol and drugs have their own set of depressive stages. 

Alcohol and drug influenced depression along with an already depressive state of mind could progress from a mild form of depression to major depression or even double depression. This means you could lose sight of your strengths, positive out-looks, what you are capable of accomplishing in life, as well as positive life-patterns and your true core beliefs.

Grief and sadness in men is another point of entry for depression or depressive thoughts. Major life changes, becoming introverted, isolation, loss of appetite, weight loss or weight gain are all noticeable signs of depression. Low energy, fatigue and unexpressed thoughts of suicide (i.e.,: “Life would be better without me”) can be hidden signs. Lack of concentration, difficulty solving problems or making decisions, forgetfulness, lack of sleep or excess sleep are all masked signs that can be mistaken for other ailments instead of depression.

Whatever the situation, we must be more aware of the presence of male depression and look past the outward appearance and delve more into the heart of the situation. It may not be easy, but ask questions, communicate, relate, offer assistance. 

If you can figure the reason for the depression, good and if not fine, just seek professional help.
Depression can be managed through counseling or through counseling and medication. Share your experiences with others…it may help someone. Talking about it also helps you too. May God bless and keep each and everyone of you.

Elder Rick H. Carter